Thursday, October 21, 2004
These last couple of weeks have been horrible. Well, schooland fencing have been awesome, it's the family that hasn't been doing well. I have done a good job of not talking to people about it. It's just not right to let your problems out on people you've only own for three months. So pardon me, but I need to release somewhere. My mom has figured out that it is easier to tell people things over IM because she is not good with breaking bad news but likes to tell someone about it. So she informed me about how sick my sister is again and how worried the doctor's are for her randomly over IM. She is also worried about Sarah's boyfriend (not a good situation there). Fortunately the next thing she told me over the phone.
"If you have anything to say to either of your grandparents you better say it within the next couple of weeks." That's a great way to break to your daughter that her grandparent's are dying.
"Why?"
"Because your grandmother is going downhill really fast and your grandfather (who is is a nuring home and not doing well as is) stopped eating when he heard the news. The doctors' don't expect them to last long."
I hate hearing bad news over a phone when there is no one there to hug you and tell you it will be okay. These are the grandparents I am the closest to. All my relatives live in New Hampshire, but these were the only two that came down every spring and winter to stay with us on the way to and from Florida. We stay with them every time we go to New Hampshire and we use to go camping with them. When I was little I could just sit and talk with them for a long time. They are so nice and fun loving. I haven't seen my grandfather in a year, and I may never get to see either of them again. That's just so hard to grasp. It doesn't seem real. Alright, moving on before I cry.
I had a friend tell me they tried to commit suicide and sent me the pictures. I cried and nearly threw up. I talked to them for a long time and then went and cried. It's horrible to see them going through such a hard time and I can't do anything about it.
Oh, about my grandparents not doing well, my relatives are squabling about the inheritance. How insensitive and horribly greedy!!! My grandparents not only still alive, but my relatives are just so greedy!
Well, my room just got invaded so maybe I'll finish posting later, or maybe not.
"If you have anything to say to either of your grandparents you better say it within the next couple of weeks." That's a great way to break to your daughter that her grandparent's are dying.
"Why?"
"Because your grandmother is going downhill really fast and your grandfather (who is is a nuring home and not doing well as is) stopped eating when he heard the news. The doctors' don't expect them to last long."
I hate hearing bad news over a phone when there is no one there to hug you and tell you it will be okay. These are the grandparents I am the closest to. All my relatives live in New Hampshire, but these were the only two that came down every spring and winter to stay with us on the way to and from Florida. We stay with them every time we go to New Hampshire and we use to go camping with them. When I was little I could just sit and talk with them for a long time. They are so nice and fun loving. I haven't seen my grandfather in a year, and I may never get to see either of them again. That's just so hard to grasp. It doesn't seem real. Alright, moving on before I cry.
I had a friend tell me they tried to commit suicide and sent me the pictures. I cried and nearly threw up. I talked to them for a long time and then went and cried. It's horrible to see them going through such a hard time and I can't do anything about it.
Oh, about my grandparents not doing well, my relatives are squabling about the inheritance. How insensitive and horribly greedy!!! My grandparents not only still alive, but my relatives are just so greedy!
Well, my room just got invaded so maybe I'll finish posting later, or maybe not.
Comments:
"It's just not right to let your problems out on people you've only known for three months."
What on earth makes you think that?
I'm pretty sure you'd listen to me if I came to you with a problem, and I've only known you since the beginning of the school year. If I'm wrong, then it's my own mistake about your character. On the other hand, if it WOULDN'T bother you for me to come let my problems out on you, why would it bother me or any of your other friends for you to let your problems out on us? Three months is a long time to develop friendships, especially when you're constantly around the people. Now if YOU'RE not comfortable opening up with new friends, that's understandable. But if you DO want to open up - if all that's stopping you is that you think we don't want you to - then quit being silly and remember that that's one of the things friends do: listen to each others' problems and offer comfort or company when you need it.
I know this has gotten long-winded; just remember that you DO have friends here who are willing to listen if you feel like you want or need to talk :-)
- Jason
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What on earth makes you think that?
I'm pretty sure you'd listen to me if I came to you with a problem, and I've only known you since the beginning of the school year. If I'm wrong, then it's my own mistake about your character. On the other hand, if it WOULDN'T bother you for me to come let my problems out on you, why would it bother me or any of your other friends for you to let your problems out on us? Three months is a long time to develop friendships, especially when you're constantly around the people. Now if YOU'RE not comfortable opening up with new friends, that's understandable. But if you DO want to open up - if all that's stopping you is that you think we don't want you to - then quit being silly and remember that that's one of the things friends do: listen to each others' problems and offer comfort or company when you need it.
I know this has gotten long-winded; just remember that you DO have friends here who are willing to listen if you feel like you want or need to talk :-)
- Jason
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: October 22, 2004 at 8:34 AM
: October 22, 2004 at 8:34 AM